Iyanla Vanzant on Relationships (“Iyanla: Fix My Life”)

Rejection (Yes, it cuts both ways!):

Fear of intimacy:

Need vs. want/being vulnerable:

Look for the experience, not the feeling! (1998 vid w/ Oprah):

Greg Behrendt on Relationships

If he’s not calling you, it’s because you are not on his mind. If he creates expectations for you, and then doesn’t follow through on little things, he will do same for big things. Be aware of this and realize that he’s okay with disappointing you. Don’t be with someone who doesn’t do what they say they’re going to do.

I’m about to make a wild, extreme and severe relationship rule: the word “busy” is a load of crap and is most often used by assholes. The word “busy” is the relationship Weapon of Mass Destruction. It seems like a good excuse, but in fact in every silo you uncover, all you’re going to find is a man who didn’t care enough to call. Remember men are never to busy to get what they want.

I truly believe that the only way you can find out that there’s something better out there is to first believe there’s something better out there. What other choice is there?

A man who wants to make a relationship work will move mountains to keep the woman he loves.

Don’t spend your time on and give your heart to any guy who makes you wonder about anything related to his feelings for you.

 Alone also means available for someone outstanding.

Life is hard enough as it is without choosing someone difficult to share it with.

When it comes to men, deal with them as they are, not how you’d like them to be.

I believe in love the verb, not the noun.

Maybe this is just me, because my priorities have changed as I’ve gotten older. But now I don’t want to be “sort of dating” someone. I don’t want to be “kinda hanging out” with someone. I don’t want to spend a lot of energy suppressing all my feelings so I appear uninvolved. I want to be involved.

Before you look for validation in others, try and find it in yourself.

…there is something great about knowing that my only job is to be as happy as I can be about my life, and feel as good as I can about myself, and to lead as full and eventful a life as I can, so that it doesn’t ever feel like I’m just waiting around for some guy to ask me out. And most importantly, it’s good for us all to remember that we don’t need to scheme and plot and beg to get someone to ask us out. We’re fantastic.

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