Category: Desis
Single, Muslim, and Female
NOTE: The author, Shabana Mir, was born and raised in a humble Pakistani family. Through her talent, hard work, etc, she was able to come to the US for graduate studies. Mir received her Ph.D. from IU Bloomington.
http://newsweek.washingtonpost.com/postglobal/islamsadvance/2008/09/single_muslim_and_female.html
SHABANA MIR
Dating in the Muslim world is a relatively new phenomenon. The Koran effectively outlaws the practice by frowning upon meetings between single men and women; traditionally, Muslim communities have relied on arranged marriages.
But in recent years, in parallel with an explosion of online dating agencies and “singles’ nights”, dating has begun to make serious inroads into Muslim society, especially in the West. Shabana Mir, author of the excellent Koonj blog, argues that Muslim women need to date and discusses the impact of dating on expatriate Muslim culture in America.
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“Contemporary Muslim Woman” Series: Over 30 and Unmarried – Breaking a Stalemate
GOATMILK continues its original and exclusive month long series entitled “The Contemporary Muslim Woman” featuring diverse Muslim women writers from around the world discussing a gamut of topics in their own unique, honest and eclectic voices.
Breaking a Stalemate
ZEBA IQBAL
My sincere request to the Muslim American community, namely eligible men and their mothers, matrimonial sites and event organizers, and rishta aunties everywhere: ‘Please stop ignoring me, and many others like me. I am part of a growing population of single women over 35 in our community, and we are not going away.’
We’ve reached a stalemate on marriage (probably several years ago) and have been on opposite sides of the table for too long. Can we be allies, not enemies? No one’s right. No one’s wrong. Can we call a truce and move on?
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“Contemporary Muslim Woman” Series: Dating While Muslim by Zeba Iqbal
GOATMILK continues its original and exclusive month long series entitled “The Contemporary Muslim Woman” featuring diverse Muslim women writers from around the world discussing a gamut of topics in their own unique, honest and eclectic voices.
Zeba Iqbal, author of the now famous “Over 30 and Unmarried” post returns with…
Dating While Muslim
Zeba Iqbal
A provocative title, though I doubt the discussion will be quite as titillating. Before getting into a debate over the title, I’d like to establish some context. Marriage is important in Islam, for men and women. Love and respect are too. To even contemplate loving and respecting someone enough to marry them, one has to meet and speak with the person sufficiently in open, non-judgmental, supportive and protected settings that promote honest and relevant dialogue. That is the premise for ‘dating while Muslim’.
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WHEN I THINK ABOUT MARRYING: Zeba Iqbal
http://www.altmuslimah.com/a/b/a/3003/
ZEBA IQBAL
Many of my single women friends are over 30, and some are now over 35. Together we either laugh till we cry, or cry till we laugh when we talk about the challenges of meeting and marrying Muslim men. The situations we find ourselves in today are both funny and sad – at the same time.
I’m glad to have women (and now men too) with whom I can share my myriad of emotions and observations on this topic. I feel much less alone now than I have in the past in this regard. I know that Allah is with me, which definitely does give me solace, but having support that I can see and feel makes a big difference.
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