Greg Behrendt on Relationships

If he’s not calling you, it’s because you are not on his mind. If he creates expectations for you, and then doesn’t follow through on little things, he will do same for big things. Be aware of this and realize that he’s okay with disappointing you. Don’t be with someone who doesn’t do what they say they’re going to do.

I’m about to make a wild, extreme and severe relationship rule: the word “busy” is a load of crap and is most often used by assholes. The word “busy” is the relationship Weapon of Mass Destruction. It seems like a good excuse, but in fact in every silo you uncover, all you’re going to find is a man who didn’t care enough to call. Remember men are never to busy to get what they want.

I truly believe that the only way you can find out that there’s something better out there is to first believe there’s something better out there. What other choice is there?

A man who wants to make a relationship work will move mountains to keep the woman he loves.

Don’t spend your time on and give your heart to any guy who makes you wonder about anything related to his feelings for you.

 Alone also means available for someone outstanding.

Life is hard enough as it is without choosing someone difficult to share it with.

When it comes to men, deal with them as they are, not how you’d like them to be.

I believe in love the verb, not the noun.

Maybe this is just me, because my priorities have changed as I’ve gotten older. But now I don’t want to be “sort of dating” someone. I don’t want to be “kinda hanging out” with someone. I don’t want to spend a lot of energy suppressing all my feelings so I appear uninvolved. I want to be involved.

Before you look for validation in others, try and find it in yourself.

…there is something great about knowing that my only job is to be as happy as I can be about my life, and feel as good as I can about myself, and to lead as full and eventful a life as I can, so that it doesn’t ever feel like I’m just waiting around for some guy to ask me out. And most importantly, it’s good for us all to remember that we don’t need to scheme and plot and beg to get someone to ask us out. We’re fantastic.

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Thoughts on New Series Premieres

Black-ish (ABC, WED, 9:30PM EST)

blackish-sitcom-airs-2014-fallYes, the title of this comedy is a bit odd, but it presents real-world issues in a humorous matter.  I checked out this show because Laurence Fishburne plays the granddad!  New VP of marketing at a predominantly white advertising firm, Andre Johnson (a trimmed down Anthony Anderson), worries about his four young kids not knowing much about their black heritage.  His biracial surgeon wife, Rainbow (Tracee Ellis Ross), thinks he’s overreacting- they’ve worked hard for their comfy suburban LA life.  Their oldest son, Andre Jr., wants to have a bar mitzvah (like his Jewish pals) and is chosen for the field hockey team at school (not basketball, as his dad hoped). 

This new show has received mixed reviews, but I think it has potential.  It’s been a long time since The Cosby Show and it’s spinoff A Different World, two successful comedies that presented middle-class black American life and eclectic, interesting, and well-developed characters.  Fans of Girlfriends will be happy to see Ellis Ross in a different role, though still capable and smart like Joan.  The child actors, especially the twin boy and girl, are very cute and come off as natural.  The issues are easy to relate to if you have a foot in two worlds.  My favorite line: “We’re black, not African.  Africans don’t even like us.”  Fishburne’s character says this while Andre and Jr. are attempting to perform an African rites of passage ritual.

How to Get Away with Murder (ABC, THURS, 10PM EST)

davis_aA lot was written about this new Shonda Rimes’ series before it even ran; she’s not the creator, but is producing. Rimes has proven that she can bring in viewers, including women and minorities of all types, with Grey’s Anatomy and Scandal (which has many fans livetweeting each Thursday night).  Annalise Keating (Viola Davis) is a practicing defense attorney and professor at a fictional law school in Philly.  She’s a multi-faceted, complicated character- this attracted Davis to TV.  I’ve seen her on Broadway- in person, she’s a lean dynamo that “can play any role,” as that old song says.

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There are plenty of twists and turns in the pilot, but I wasn’t as impressed as I’d hoped.  Fans of Matt McGorry (Orange is the New Black) were probably wanting more from his character.  Maybe later on?  Wes (Alfred Enoch, a Brit) is the POV character- I liked his wide-eyed innocence.  Check it out for yourself and decide!  Oh, and don’t forget to check out #notclassicallybeautiful hashtag on Twitter.

Red Band Society (FOX, WED, 8PM EST)

Red_Band_Society_a_lThis drama stars several fresh-faced newcomers (teens) and Octavia Spencer, who co-starred with Davis in The Help.  Spencer plays an experienced nurse working with kids who have potentially terminal diseases. These kids are have little in common, aside from the fact that they have to live in the hospital (because they need around-the-clock monitoring).  It’s not like any other show starring teens out there- a big plus in my mind.  There is a spiritual element to the show, centered on young boy in a coma.  I’m not sure if I’ll keep watching- I felt teary-eyed three times watching the pilot!

Selfie (ABC, TUES, 8PM EST)

selfieWhat an annoying title!  Honestly, I tuned in solely for John Cho (who many know from the Harold and Kumar movies).  It started out weak, but I liked the scenes in the second half of the comedy (including a poem and song).  Cho plays Henry Higgs, a marketing guru/loner, who is asked by his self-absorbed 20-something co-worker, Eliza Dooley (Karen Gillan, a Scot), to revamp her image after a embarrassing (online/viral) incident.  Yes, those names are from My Fair Lady, which is the inspiration for this series.  Henry, not unlike Eliza, has difficulty connecting to people- she hides behind her cell; he hides behind his work/professional demeanor.  I hope this show gets better and finds an audience!  Favorite line: “Being friended isn’t the same as having friends.”