Two films from Reel Women International Film Fest

Ella No Quiere Dormir Sola (She Doesn’t Want to Sleep Alone)

Director Natalia Beristain
Director Natalia Beristain

This is a film about the connection between two true-to-life women.  Director Natalia Beristain based this film partly on the final years of her grandmother, who was a well-known actress in her native Mexico, just like the older protagonists- Dolores (Adriana Roel).  The younger protagonist, Amanda (Mariana Gaja), is an out-of-work 33 year-old with a love for photography.  Since her father (played by Arturo Beristain, the director’s father) is out of town shooting his latest film, Amanda has to look out for her grandmother, who suffers from both alcoholism and dementia.  Dolores is stubborn, prideful, but still has some spark in her, while her mind goes from her glory days onscreen (she was a vivacious beauty) to the banality of modern life (living in an old folks’ home).  Dolores loves swimming, so spends hours in the pool.  Amanda joins her and then takes some photos.  Spending time with her grandmother helps Amanda , who tends to be defensive and distant (even with her caring boyfriend), view herself in a new light.   

De Tu Ventana a La Mia (From Your Window to Mine)

Director Paula Ortiz
Director Paula Ortiz

First time director, Paula Ortiz, also wrote this fine film (which is epic, yet intimate, in scope).  Three women of different ages and personalities, living in different times, go through personal turmoil (which any woman can relate to).  “The stories of these types of women were not told- they were silent.  They didn’t choose their lives,” the director commented. 

In 1923, the teenaged Violeta (Leticia Dolero), a petite, delicate beauty is sheltered by her gentle grandmother and teacher (a respected medical doctor).  Her mother had some sort of mental illness, so the doctor gives her a potion to drink each day.  Violeta falls deeply in love with a college boy who stays at her house over a few weeks.  In 1941, Ines (Maribel Verdu from Pan’s Labyrinth and Y Tu Mama Tambien), has long been in love with Paco, an anti-Franco activist.  They get married before he’s captured and jailed (in a partly underground prison).  Ines, a strong country woman, becomes pregnant and continues to earn a living (in a harsh, desert-like climate).  Ines was based partly on Ortiz’s grandmother.  In 1975, Luisa (Luisa Gavaza, a character actress in her native Spain), is diagnosed with breast cancer.  She doesn’t realize that a man she sees every day is in love with her, and dreams of heroes from classic movies.  Her partner in life is her older sister, also unmarried, who cooks and cares for her without much complaint.  Luisa was based on the director’s aunt, who lived though the last days of dictatorship.             

Love, Whiteness, and Girls in Turbans

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Lots of things have been going down at LoveInshallah.com and within the Muslim blogosphere. The recent article on Muslim men returning “back home” to find wives generated diverse cyber chatter, with various responses supporting or criticizing different positions.  On the heels of that debate, the Miptserz-coining, Somewhere in America, video featuring women  in hijabs and cool turbans skateboarding to Jay-Z generated widespread media controversy.  Again, Muslims drew well-argued lines on the good, the bad, and the ugly regarding the video’s use of hijab and contemporary representations of Muslim female identity.  In the middle of these developments, I had two appearances on NPR’s Tell Me More discussing issues around dating, race, and identity.

These events got me thinking about my own orientation to love and belonging.  This would not be page worthy except that these thoughts nudge against how I define myself as a Muslim in conjunction with a desire for…

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Remember the Night (1940)

Introduction

I think Christmas is almost a “device” in this movie. It isn’t a “Christmas” movie, although Christmas certainly helps.  Rethink it as MacMurry taking Stanwyck home for the Fourth of July parade and picnic. I think it almost works, although there is nothing like the atmosphere that Christmas conjures up.

-IMDB comment

Stanwyck and MacMurray in Double Indemnity
Stanwyck and MacMurray in Double Indemnity

I saw this secular Christmas-themed film (at AFI Silver) with my parents, who are also fans of Double Indemnity, which also stars Barbara Stanwyck and Fred MacMurray.  This film was made 4 years prior to that film noir.  Once again, the theme is redemption- a thief who realizes what she’d been missing in her childhood, falls in love (with a man and his family), then faces the consequences of her crime.  (Don’t you think Benedict Cumberbatch resembles a young MacMurray?  )

Remember the Night (1940)

Lee Leander: Now there’s nothing as dangerous as a square shooter. If all men were like you, there wouldn’t be any nice girls left.

On the night before Christmas Eve, up-and-coming ADA John Sargeant (MacMurray), decides to bail out Lee Leander (Stanwyck), the thief (with tree strikes) whose case was postponed for the holidays.  The bail bondsman takes her over to John’s apartment, much to his confusion/shock.  John, being a decent guy (see above quote), decides to take Lee out for dinner.  They run into the judge who presided over their trial- oops! 

John wonders how a normal person like her can turn to crime, and she tells him her way of thinking.  They get to know each other a bit- turns out their both from small towns in Indiana.  Every Christmas, John drives home for the holidays, and he offers to take Lea along with him.  Lee’s tough gal façade fades, and she becomes very emotional.   She doesn’t even know if her mother is alive, since she’s “never” been back home after coming to NYC.      

Lee and John in a cow field
Lee and John in a cow field

There are some funny/wacky scenes in small-town Pennsylvania, after they (unknowingly) trespass on a very angry/gun-toting farmer’s land.  They end up at the justice of the peace’s office, but John is not very adept at lying, but Lee is an old hand.  Lee creates a little fire in a small wastebasket, enabling them to get away.  John is shocked, yet also impressed, by her quick thinking.  

When they reach Lee’s hometown, her mother (remarried) wants nothing to do with her.  It’s a dark, well-done scene- not what you’d see in the cloying/unrealistic Hallmark holiday movies of recent times.  While Lee tries to explain her side to her mother, John is quietly/calmly supportive. 

The scene at Lee’s childhood home when John takes her back home to her mother’s house is such a chilling scene…  Listening to her mother’s “good riddance” speech and Lee’s comments in the yard afterward… it’s just such a creepy, lonesome moment, filled with utter rejection…

But when he asks Lea’s mother her name and she responds “The name doesn’t concern you.”  His delivery of “It certainly does not” gives me the chills.  It just says so much of his character.

-IMDB comments

With John's loving family
With John’s loving family

There’s a moment when John is playing the piano and his family is gathered around when Lee looks around her in wonder.  Barbara Stanwyck did a brilliantly subtle job of expressing the thought “What would it have been like to have grown up in a home like this?” in that brief moment.

-IMDB comment

Jack’s family includes his level-headed mother Mrs. Sargeant (played by Beulah Bondi, Ma Bailey from It’s a Wonderful Life), doting Aunt Emma, and (comic relief) farm boy, Willy.  They rush about getting everything perfect for John’s arrival.  (John explained earlier that he grew up quite humble, but in the past few years, has been able to provide well for his family.)  Lee is happily surprised by their lovely farmhouse and friendly demeanor.  They gather about the piano (John plays some) and sing songs. 

Being the honest man, John admits to his mother that Lee is a thief with no family to go to, not his “special lady.”  His mother is still sympathetic toward Lee.  The next morning, they even give Lee a few presents!

John and Lee embrace
John and Lee embrace

Over the next few days, Aunt Emma sees that Lee and John are falling in love.  At the barn dance, she beams with happiness as she watches the couple dance and kiss.  Mrs. Sargeant is worried, so she  has a serious (yet gently worded) talk with Lee the night before they leave for NYC.  She explains exactly how hard John worked to get to where he is in his life.  Lee says she’d never ruin his life, but admits that she’s in love with her son.  

On the way back, they take a road through Canada, and end up in Niagara Falls.  They admit their love for each other.  John tells Lee that she can get away now, if she wants.  She refuses, because she wants to face up to her sentence.  John feels guilty, since the jury was about to acquit her (before the holiday recess).  

Back in the courtroom, John begins to treat Lee in such a harsh manner, garnering her sympathy from the jury.  After a few questions, Lee realizes what he’s doing, and begs the judge to allow her to plead guilty.  In the final scene, before Lee is taken away by the prison matron, John explains that her sentence probably won’t be too long.  Lee’s ready to face anything (now that she’s loved).        

My problem with traditional desi marriage

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Eds. Note: This is a response to yesterday’s guest post, How I met my son’s mother. Have a perspective to share on love and relationships? Read our guidelines, here.

Update 11/26/13: Congratulations to writer Aisha Saeed on this post being chosen by the editors of WordPress for Freshly Pressed, highlighting the best posts on WordPress. In an email to LoveinshAllah.com, WordPress said: “Aisha Saeed’s response to your guest post about arranged marriages was a really powerful and articulate call for fairness and equality. She delivers her points with a great balance of passion and reason, which makes this piece engaging even for those who aren’t intimate with the debate surrounding marriage in south Asian communities. It’s a great post that deserves a wider audience.”

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There’s a befuddling conundrum afoot in the desi (South Asian) community. You must first understand a few things:

a) For whatever reason…

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