Hope your Summer is going well! Life is going great (VERY rare for me to admit) so far this year- it may be my best yet! I don’t think the 25 y.o. me would recognize the person that I’ve (slowly) become. The confidence factor is key, I feel, b/c I didn’t have much of that as a younger person. I may be unusual, BUT I think life really starts after age 30.
As you may have noticed, I was VERY busy from mid-March to early July, esp. w/ work. I have a different role (but w/in the same company); it’s been a BIT of a challenge (at times), and also a GREAT learning experience. I have MORE to learn, I’m certain. Since I took on this role, I’ve learned more about my company and dealt w/ many people (including consultants and partners). I really enjoy that aspect (now); as an older teen/young adult, my part-time jobs helped me slowly get out of my shell and not be fearful of strangers.
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Don’t worry about your looks; worry about your health.
Don’t only change for men, you have to be healthy for yourself.
Above are two of my mom’s fave sayings; I’ve been hearing them over the years. I must add that my mom has ALWAYS been a moderate eater. She doesn’t believe in diets, fads, or even spending 2 hours ea. day at the gym; her chosen exercise is walking and yoga. After several years of yoga, Mom branched out to Zumba and few other aerobic classes at her (no-frills) gym.
The few other South Asian women at her gym were happy to see a friendly face; exercise is not often at the top of our lists. We want the younger gen to have their heads in books. (Sidenote: If you can read on treadmill, then you’re not going fast enough.) Most desi kids, even in the US, don’t grow up playing a sport, which can be benefit when they get older. Now, we don’t need to be GREAT at sports, but why not attempt it more often? My little brother and a 2nd (girl) cousin are the only ones I know who played sports after elementary school age.
If you want to lose weight, cut down on the following foods:
- Bread (white) – I can’t even recall when I ate white bread; I like flatbread now.
- Candy/Desserts – We now know that (a BIT) of dark chocolate can be good for us. However, the I feel that MOST of the US indulges too much in sugary foods. We must (slowly) train ourselves to get out of the habit of turning to sugar; try some different fruit instead (if available). Save desserts for rare/special occasions.
- Pasta (white) – I used to be a BIG fan of pasta, but rarely eat it now. Wheat pasta is not bad tasting, IMO.
- Potatoes – I eat potatoes RARELY; I do like fries. Mom suggests baking sweet potato fries; she did that before it became popular.
- Rice (white) – This is a tough one for me (as well as MANY South Asians)! Since I hate brown rice, I choose couscous instead. My family liked brown rice, for the most part. Good for them!
- Soda (esp. dark-colored ones that are worse for health and teeth) – I have a love of Coke (trying to cut back to once a wk); Mom does drink Sprite and Ginger Ale (on rare occasions).
The BEST tip- don’t beat yourself up for having a bad meal… or even a bad day!
I don’t like that stuff [makeup].
Don’t use so many different brands.
These are my mom’s thoughts on beauty. Everyone says that Mom has natural beauty. Growing up, she would use Ivory soap, Oil of Olay (face cream), and Ponds (face cream for the Winter). On rare occasions, she would (reluctantly) put on some eyeshadow and lipstick. Things that looked fake were NOT for her; the inner self was reflected by her outer self.
Is Mom’s idea of staying as natural as possible old-school? Hmmm… maybe not! After all, many of us see more breakouts when we use foundation. And NOT all mascaras last ALL day; it’s not good for Spring allergies either. Many surveys have shown that a clear, fresh complexion will get you noticed than ANY type of makeup. I feel that makeup is good for dates, weekends, and special occasions. The key is to know your skin type, what colors suit you, and how to apply the makeup. I suggest talking w/ a few makeup artists (Ulta, Sephora, etc.)- they can guide the total newbie (like I was a few yrs back).